Supporting others is also a way to heal.
You don't have to run 10 kilometers to be there for someone. Sometimes, just being there is enough.
I recently woke up earlier than I'd like to admit to holding a sign and cheering on a friend participating in the Cherry Blossom race. I didn't run or get physically tired, but my heart did move. Seeing how a smile or a message of encouragement could change someone's expression amid exhaustion was beautiful. That day reminded me of something straightforward: being there for others is a powerful act of love.
And no, it doesn't always have to happen at significant events. Support can look like a timely "How are you?" sent, helping with a task, listening leisurely, or simply showing up unsolicited.
Several studies have shown that helping others improves the well-being of the person receiving the gesture and that of the person giving it. Support connects us, gives us purpose, and often enhances our mood and mental health. Even when we feel like we can't do much, being present with intention can be enough. (Harvard Health)
Simple (and real) ways to be there for someone:
- Prepare a favorite meal or drink for a friend who's had a rough day.
- Share a helpful resource to help with their work, studies, or health.
- Make a support sign (even if it's digital) to cheer someone up before an important milestone.
- Watch the children or pet of someone who needs a break or to run an errand.
- Send a spontaneous voicemail to remind someone how much you appreciate them.
- Go with them to a doctor's appointment, even if it's to wait in the waiting room with them.
- Write a letter or thank-you note to someone who has inspired or helped you.
- Offer your time or skills: edit a resume, proofread a copy, help with a move.
Supporting others is also a way to heal. When I help someone, I return a little of the love others have planted in me. It's as if my current self were paying homage to those who supported me in the past.
And that... that's powerful.
So, if you don't have the energy to run your race today but can walk alongside someone else, do it. That gesture, no matter how small, can encourage someone to keep going.
And you? Who could you support today?
